A Shared Celebration

Everyone celebrates their birthday, but my experience was somewhat different. I shared my special day with my younger sister, who is two years my junior. We would share a cake, invite friends, and sometimes our gifts were divided between us.

While it was a shared occasion, it never felt entirely like my day. This was acceptable within my family, leading to constant comparisons between my sister and me. The running commentary about our differences became a norm, even in the presence of others.

Over time, I learned to dismiss this as a part of my reality, but those words left a profound imprint. The emotional trauma woven into my childhood has taken years for me to unravel, especially after discovering a shocking truth years later.

A Turning Point

As I approached a significant milestone birthday, I made a pivotal decision that transformed my life. Since then, I have chosen to celebrate my birthday in a way that holds personal significance.

This year, I am planning an exciting trip to the UK—a dream destination since my teenage years. On my birthday, I will be in Dublin, surrounded by the legacy of great literary figures. What better place for a writer to celebrate?

Trauma often emerges in layers, presenting opportunities for healing repeatedly. For me, associating trauma with my birthday has encouraged a yearly commitment to making choices that nurture my spirit.

This decade birthday has taught me an essential lesson: we must take ownership of our lives. Each time you honor your commitment to yourself, you pave the way for a better life.

What are your commitments, and what actions are you taking to achieve your goals?

Frances Hickmott, the author of Journey to Joy: How to Overcome Life's Setbacks to Create a Life You Love, invites you to reflect on your journey. Share your thoughts below, and let’s inspire each other to lead fulfilling lives.