Overcoming the Fear of Management Roles: A Personal Journey
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Chapter 1: The Dread of Management Positions
When I received my initial management offer, I was filled with trepidation. The same feeling resurfaced with subsequent roles. Why did my stomach feel as if it were doing somersaults? Why was I second-guessing every choice I had made throughout my radio career?
You might relate to this experience. It’s a common manifestation of imposter syndrome—more prevalent than the unreliable service from so-called helpful staff at my local supermarket.
I vividly recall my first day as the head of programs at the radio station. It felt like wearing my father's oversized suit—awkward and ill-fitting. I stumbled in my trousers and was engulfed by the jacket. My dad frequently offered me his old clothes, a gesture I never quite understood.
In that first leadership meeting, I worried everyone would see through my facade and realize I wasn’t cut out for the role. I was trying to project an image of confidence, whatever that entailed. The root of my anxiety? I was judging my internal feelings against the polished exteriors of others.
Section 1.1: The Illusion of the Corner Office
At one of my radio stations, Sarah from marketing was promoted to team lead. She carried herself with such confidence, you would think she was born for it. Meanwhile, I was tucked away in the production cubicle, feeling out of place.
I could almost hear the journalists questioning my worthiness of the “Employee of the Month” recognition I received two years prior. After a broadcast event for chocolate pizza (yes, that happened), Sarah and I shared a bottle of wine. To my surprise, she admitted she felt just as anxious as I did. “I’m just better at faking it,” she joked, downing her third glass.
Chapter 2: The Myth of the Secret Society
I was convinced there existed a covert group of “real” managers who had everything figured out. They must convene in hidden radio station bunkers, exchanging ancient wisdom and mocking imposters like myself.
However, it turns out that such a society is merely a figment of my imagination. (If it does exist, I’m still waiting for my membership.)
Section 2.1: Building Self-Belief
Let’s face reality—becoming an exceptional manager isn’t about morphing into an overnight leadership expert. It’s about utilizing your current skills and being open to growth.
Here’s Sarah’s strategy that I’ve adopted:
- Embrace the “Fake It Till You Make It” principle—but with a twist. Instead of pretending to be skilled, project confidence. Your abilities are authentic; you just need to have faith in them.
- Start a “Win Jar.” Every time you achieve a small victory, jot it down and place it in the jar. On difficult days, revisit your wins. It’s like receiving encouragement from your past self. (And yes, I discreetly stored the jar in my desk drawer.)
- Reframe “I Don’t Know.” Rather than viewing errors as failures, recognize them as opportunities for growth. As a former BBC radio manager advised me, “I don’t know, but I’ll find out” is an entirely acceptable response.
Section 2.2: The Action Plan
Imposter syndrome doesn’t indicate a lack of qualifications; it often signifies that you are stepping outside your comfort zone. Many experts on this syndrome miss this crucial point.
Forget about pretending to possess skills; instead, focus on exuding confidence. After all, you weren’t offered this position by mere chance. Someone recognized your potential.
The first video, "Most Leaders Don't Even Know the Game They're In | Simon Sinek," delves into the complexities of leadership and understanding the role. Sinek emphasizes the importance of self-awareness in effective management.
The second video, "If You Struggle With Over-reacting To Your Emotions, WATCH THIS | Mel Robbins," offers practical advice on managing emotions and building resilience. Robbins provides strategies for overcoming emotional reactions that can hinder leadership success.
I’ve also narrated my insights on imposter syndrome in an Audible book. I enjoy coaching, engaging with local radio, and spending time with my cat, Walter.
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