Chapter 1: The Call to Change

Imagine having a conversation with your guardian angel, asking the question that has lingered in your mind: Why did this happen to me? The angel simply shrugs and replies, “Because it did!” This response offers no explanation but instead invites you to move forward. How do you handle such an abrupt truth?

While anger and frustration may surge within you, there might also be a part that resonates with this stark reality. What if everything unfolded the way it did just because?

Many years ago, after ending my third marriage, I returned to Canada with two sons and three suitcases, following an inner voice that commanded, “Go home.” It was a directive I couldn't ignore, so I complied.

Upon my return, I quickly recognized that I needed to build a life I wouldn't want to escape. With children to raise, limited finances, and the unlikely prospect of future vacations, my days and nights would be consumed by work just to make ends meet. Despite my efforts, financial stability eluded me, and I found myself accepting debt as a trade-off for being present for my sons. They were my priority; I could stumble in financial matters but not in motherhood.

You might argue that women in North America have the freedom to choose their paths, and to an extent, you’d be right. This realization was, in fact, what motivated my departure from the Persian Gulf, where my rights were limited compared to those in Canada. However, a deeper truth must be acknowledged.

As a single mother determined to raise my children without institutionalizing them in daycare or after-school programs—systems that perpetuate societal norms rather than address children’s true needs—I had to create a framework that allowed me to care for them while also earning a living. This journey is shared by countless women today. Yet, there’s no mother’s pension to reward our contributions, as the work of mothering often goes unrecognized.

I’m not here to lament; rather, I aim to clarify that the choices I made were necessities, not options. They were essential for my survival and aligned with my values as a mother. Thankfully, we persevered, but unexpected transformations emerged.

All I ever desired was to be an independent woman capable of supporting myself and my children. Fame and riches held no appeal; my focus has always been on achieving a sustainable life. While I cherished being a young mother, I resented my inability to provide adequately for my family. Without alimony or child support from any of my former spouses, I found myself questioning the acceptability of this reality. My return to Canada thrust me into a profound learning experience that exceeded any expectations I had.

Here’s where the inquiry shifts to: Why was this period of intense learning a remarkable gift?

The struggle of living on society's fringes, the pain of lacking what I thought I deserved, and the exhaustion from working tirelessly for minimal pay pushed me into a realm of profound surrender, one that I could scarcely comprehend.

For women navigating a world often dominated by masculine energies—both constructive and destructive—there lies a significant responsibility. She gains the ability for self-reflection and discernment, which are true markers of freedom. This woman must ask herself: What essence compels me to express my creativity and manifest my dreams?

This woman no longer conforms to societal expectations; she belongs to herself. There is no greater power than the woman she can become. Discovering her path requires immense courage, honesty, and resilience. True freedom from servitude arises when a woman willingly dedicates herself to serving those in need, paving the way for selfless service.

When I found myself at my lowest, carrying a laundry basket and feeling like I could no longer push forward, I repeatedly reminded myself: I chose this life. Nobody is imposing this upon me. This realization provided the strength to continue with my daily responsibilities.

A part of me understood that a woman cannot master her life while remaining in a victim mindset. There exists a commitment that can elevate womanhood beyond victimization. I uncovered this truth within the crucible of my own struggles, especially when I ceased asking, “Why?”

When we shift our focus from external validation to introspection, we become aware of what is truly meant for us. It reveals itself to those ready to step away from entitlement and embrace the essence of love, as Helen Luke wisely stated, “We may do what we will only when we have learned the nature of love.”

The Mother of All Life will instinctively do what is necessary to nurture her young. This essence resides within every being. Resist her, and consequences will follow. Embrace her, and she will guide you in creating a life you love.

Be. Cause.

In the video "How To Build A Life You Love," viewers are encouraged to explore the steps towards crafting a fulfilling existence. It emphasizes the importance of taking proactive measures to align one’s life with personal values and aspirations.

The second video, "How to Create a Life You Love | Sonia Ovenden | TEDxCariobaStudio," provides inspiring insights on how to shift perspectives and embrace the journey towards a life filled with passion and purpose.