Threats of Harm

As I noted in the previous installment, my son initially exhibited severe outbursts, which included throwing objects, physical aggression, and expressing wishes to harm himself or others. While I recognized these behaviors as mere tantrums, they were the primary reason he had cycled through numerous foster homes, often leading to mental health facility placements instead of stable housing. Fortunately, after just two weeks in our home, these outbursts largely ceased, yet I was determined to prevent any further incidents.

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I hesitated to report his threatening behaviors to the caseworker, as such disclosures could risk his placement with us. I felt confident since both he and I were sleeping soundly at night. However, my older son was understandably anxious about the situation and wanted his brother to leave immediately. I assured him I would handle it but needed to step out without the foster child.

To address the situation, I devised a plan involving a placebo. I ended up purchasing a roll of Sweet Tarts. While he slept, I placed them in his evening medication container. The following day, I told him that a nurse friend had suggested this "medicine" to alleviate his harmful thoughts and improve his sleep. Given that he was already on medication, there was a risk he might detect the ruse; however, he was naive enough to accept it.

On the first night of taking it, he went to bed without any issues. From that night onward, we experienced no further nighttime disturbances or threats at home. This eased his adjustment, and he felt significantly better. After three days, I discontinued the Sweet Tarts, and even after stopping, the troubling thoughts did not resurface, remaining absent for over a year.

It is important to note that using a placebo can be risky, particularly regarding mental health. I would not recommend such an approach without the guidance of a qualified professional. My two decades of experience with autism informed my confidence in this method, as I know many autism-related medications primarily affect the brain's perception rather than providing a cure. While my son exhibits more ADHD traits than autism, I was relieved that my strategy worked.

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In this video, "An Adoption Story - Part Two: Preparation," we explore the early challenges faced during the transition into a new family environment and the strategies that helped create a peaceful home.

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