Understanding the Reluctance of Covert Narcissists to Seek Help
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Chapter 1: The Denial of Help
One might assume that after alienating numerous individuals, a covert narcissist would eventually recognize their issues. However, this is rarely the case.
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Section 1.1: The Unlikelihood of Seeking Help
It seems improbable that a covert narcissist would seek assistance, even as they age. While there might be a slight chance they could, it remains doubtful. Their self-awareness is often limited, leading them to distort the truth to therapists. They don't exactly lie; rather, they recount a warped perception of reality.
Reflecting on my own experiences, I struggle to accept the words I direct at her when provoked. At times, in a vindictive mindset, I convince myself she deserves the harsh words for the pain she inflicted on me. But can you fathom treating others in such a way, yet remain oblivious to your own malevolence? And then to take ownership of it?
Absolutely not! They deflect blame, manipulate reality, and downplay their harmful actions. This behavior convinces them they don’t require assistance—it's you who needs it!
Section 1.2: The Therapist Encounter
Thinking back, the lowest point I reached was when she invited me to meet her therapist, and together they turned against me. It was heartbreaking, and I felt like walking out. The therapist mirrored her delusions; my words fell on deaf ears as they dissected my childhood trauma.
Her therapist remarked, “Chris, it’s not like she is married,” completely ignoring the fact that she was! Both were aware of this but chose to deceive me. I even returned for another session, but unsurprisingly, my ex failed to show up after I expressed my unwillingness to tolerate her lies anymore. Upon my arrival, her therapist continued to shield her, whispering on the phone while refusing to meet with me individually during my emotional breakdown.
Chapter 2: The Search for Support
Covert narcissists may seek help only when their ego is severely damaged, providing them a fleeting glimpse of their true selves. In these moments, they often sift through their list of past victims, hoping for a connection. If you were one of the few who endured their mistreatment and still pursued them, you may find yourself at the top of their list!
Congratulations! They might reach out to you, and you may feel elated, thinking they finally recognize their issues. How wonderful it would be if all your efforts and suffering had yielded results!
They indeed might desire your support this time around. They truly appear to want to change!
However, I must caution you: this phase will be short-lived. Once they receive the validation they seek, their grandiosity will resurface, and they will revert to their previous patterns. Suddenly, you become the source of their problems.
Their focus on your feelings or past grievances will dissipate. Attempting to implement a plan of action or questioning their destructive behavior is a futile endeavor.
A covert narcissist acknowledges their need for help only when their supply runs dry, or they endure a significant blow to their ego that temporarily incapacitates them mentally—a phenomenon known as "Narcissistic Collapse."
Perhaps, on rare occasions, they may find a competent therapist willing to confront them about their delusions. Yet, narcissists typically cling to their own narratives, and they will abandon any therapist who challenges their worldview.
Engaging with a covert narcissist, whether a trained professional or not, can lead to profound emotional turmoil. Few understand the intricate dynamics involved. To truly grasp it, one must experience it—either by dating such an individual or by embodying those traits themselves. But recognizing oneself as a narcissist requires an awareness that most lack.
If you find yourself in this situation, it's best to distance yourself. They don’t genuinely seek help. Instead, they believe you are the source of the issues, while they remain flawless. Are you not aware of this by now?
I’m genuinely sorry.
The first video titled "5 Things A Female Covert Narcissist Will Never Admit" dives into the hidden aspects of covert narcissism and the traits that often go unacknowledged. It reveals key insights that can help you identify these behaviors in your relationships.
The second video, "A Female Covert Narcissist Will Never Admit These Things," further explores the denial and manipulation tactics employed by covert narcissists, providing viewers with a deeper understanding of their mindset and behaviors.